Taking on a physical and symbolic challenge like the Trials & Tribulations event can feel daunting, especially for modest Muslim mums who may not see themselves as the “outdoorsy type.” Here’s how you can approach the conversation with compassion, understanding, and inspiration:
Highlight the spiritual rewards
For many Muslim women, their faith is the cornerstone of their lives. Frame the challenge as an act of ibadah (worship) and a chance to fulfil key Islamic values:
- Helping those in need: Raising money for charity directly helps refugees, fulfilling the command to care for vulnerable people.
- Standing in solidarity: Participating in the challenge shows that we haven’t forgotten our brothers and sisters facing immense hardship.
- Perseverance in adversity: Reflect on the Qur’anic verse: “Indeed, with hardship comes ease” (94:6). Taking on this trial reminds us to rely on Allah during difficulties, just as refugees must.
Relate the cause to their roles as mothers
Many mums have strong maternal instincts, making the struggles of refugees—especially mothers and children—deeply resonant.
- Empathy for other mothers: Share stories of refugee mums crossing treacherous seas, often while carrying babies or comforting frightened children.
- Their children’s future: Emphasise that participating sets an example of courage and compassion for their children, teaching them the importance of charity and action.
Reassure them about the challenge itself
For modest Muslim mums who may feel self-conscious or unfit, alleviate their concerns:
- Modest clothing: Highlight that they’ll remain fully covered in appropriate clothing, like swim tights under their abayas or modest swimwear, keeping them both comfortable and within Islamic guidelines.
- Safety first: Emphasise that the event is designed to be safe, with shallow waters, plenty of supervision, and contingency plans for poor weather.
- It’s not about fitness: This isn’t a test of athleticism. The focus is on teamwork, symbolic action, and the shared experience.
Emphasise the community aspect
Many mums thrive on connection with others. Stress that this challenge is an opportunity to:
- Build bonds: Strengthen friendships within their circle by supporting one another during the event.
- Involve the whole family: While the mums take part, the children and families can watch, cheer them on, and even contribute by fundraising or volunteering.
- Be part of something bigger: Show how this challenge ties into a nationwide or even global effort to support refugees, connecting them to a wider sisterhood.
Share inspiring examples
Use examples of others like them who have taken part and found the experience rewarding:
- Stories from similar events where modest sisters stepped outside their comfort zones and emerged with greater confidence and gratitude.
- Testimonials from mums who felt nervous at first but were glad they joined, especially after reflecting on the symbolism of the challenge.
Break it down into manageable steps
Sometimes reluctance stems from feeling overwhelmed. Simplify the process:
- Step 1: Commit to raising a small amount for charity.
- Step 2: Gather modest clothing and prepare mentally for the challenge.
- Step 3: Show up as a team, supporting one another every step of the way.
Inspire them with the bigger picture
Remind them that their discomfort is temporary but their impact could last a lifetime:
- Solidarity: “If they can brave treacherous seas for survival, we can stand with them for a few hours to show we care.”
- Impact: The funds they raise could provide food, shelter, or medical aid for refugees.
- Legacy: Their participation will inspire others in the community to take action and raise awareness.
Address practical concerns
Be prepared to address common worries:
- Time: Emphasise that the event is just one day, and the preparation can be shared across the group.
- Physical ability: Reassure them that they can take breaks or adjust their pace as needed.
- Self-consciousness: Stress that this is a safe, sisters-only space where they’ll be surrounded by supportive women.
End with encouragement
Encourage them by showing appreciation for their existing efforts as mothers and community members, and invite them to stretch their boundaries in the name of Allah:
- “You already sacrifice so much for your families—this is your chance to step outside your comfort zone for a greater cause.”
- “This is a way to turn your faith into action, make a difference, and inspire others around you.”
Conclusion
By framing the challenge in terms of faith, community, and manageable steps, and by addressing practical concerns with empathy, you can help reluctant sisters find the courage to participate in an event that promises not only personal growth but also collective impact.